In my Look Back post about 2 weeks ago, I mentioned our national consultant that visited and directed you to her page (Lauren at The Sunny Girl, if you missed it).
Well, this week has been such a struggle and I've been having a hard time focusing on anything but the negative, which reminded me of something she told us.
We make our own happiness.
It seems so obvious, right? If we make a conscious decision to be happy, we're probably going to be, you guessed it, HAPPY. We all need to stop focusing on the negative aspects of our lives and try to focus on the good. It's hard, especially with disorders like depression and anxiety, but it's possible.
Stop worrying about that exam that you just failed and instead think of the opportunity you now have to improve yourself; instead of moping around and complaining about all of the work you have to do, get it done so you will actually have time to do something you enjoy; instead of constantly telling yourself that you can't, just once tell yourself that you can.
It's not all in the way we look at things, but about 95% of it is.
If you tell yourself that you're going to be happy and put forth the effort to be happy, then I am certain that you will be happy! And if by some unfortunate series of events you aren't happy, you can only go up from there!
Lauren also introduced us to something she calls, "The Sunny Set."
This is basically a bucket list, but instead of focusing on things you want to do before you die, you focus on all of the things you want to do while you live.
Sure, it's basically the same thing, but which one sounds a little bit more optimistic? I'm a big fan of living, you know.
Here are the top items of my Sunny Set:
- work for Kate Spade
- sing on Broadway
- meet (or, y'know, marry) Darren Criss
- meet Idina Menzel
- Move to New York
Sure, some of them don't seem that likely, but if I don't dream it, can it ever really happen?
Honestly, I think everyone should make a Sunny Set. Even if it's only a list of your short-term goals, I think it will help you feel much more accomplished and, in turn, a lot happier in your life.
Here are a few words from Audrey Hepburn that I think everyone should consider.